Recommended Books
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Mating In Captivity
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
She Comes First: Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasing a Woman
As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." But in the pages of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved, and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword.
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself.
Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter
Wouldn't it be great if relationships came easy? What if we all just knew intuitively what to do to make our marriages and committed partnerships the absolute best and deepest that they could be?
But the reality is that none of us are pros, and even our best relationships can go deeper. We often use love and sex as measurements for how developed our relationships are, but in reality, the glue between us is being intentional with one another, and learning to use curiosity as a strategic relationship tool.
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of getting criticized or feeling hurt. But when we step back and examine our lives, we will find that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as standing on the outside of our lives looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena - whether it’s a new relationship, an important meeting, the creative process, or a difficult family conversation.
The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure
The New Male Sexuality addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them. Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences. the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling.
The Sex Starved Marriage
It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire. Do you? If you want to stop fighting about sex and revitalize your intimate connection with your spouse, then you need this book. In The Sex-Starved Marriage, bestselling author Michele Weiner Davis will help you understand why being complacent or bitter about ho-hum sex might cost you your relationship.
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
Psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love.
Enliven Your Sex Life!
Understand sexual anatomy—yours and your partner’s—for maximum pleasure. Get your sexual needs met through conversation with your partner. Use touch for sensual stimulation and arousal.Find the best sex positions for enjoyment during intercourse. Help a woman have orgasms—more easily, and more pleasurable.
Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido
Reclaiming Desire presents the holistic approach that gynecologist Andrew Goldstein and clinical psychologist Marianne Brandon—co-founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland—use to successfully treat women with low libido.
Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships
A radically inclusive, sex-positive guide to managing the inevitable libido differences in our relationships, authored by two certified sex therapists who are passionate about good sex
Desire invites readers of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures to shed the shame and misinformation that surround the topic of sex and instead learn from 2 certified sex therapists about how libido really works.
When You're The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know
Ten Things You Need to Know is a book for anyone having an affair or indiscretion of any kind and who is confused, unsure and looking for answers. When you’re the one who cheats, it can feel like you have no options.
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.”
Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker's Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence
Most people think being good at sex comes naturally. Either you have it, or you don’t.
Kenneth Play is proof that great lovers are made, not born.
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge
The Ultimate Guide to Kink is the first major guide to BDSM in a generation—a bold and sexy collection of essays that run the gamut from expert how-to tutorials to provocative essays that delve into complex questions about desire, power, and pleasure.
The New Topping Book
Dossie Easton has taught tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play.
The New Bottoming Book
In the early 1990s, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming -- being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players.
How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
“Most people think of love as a feeling,” says Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships .Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the “five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.
After the Affair, Third Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy.
Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.
The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex.
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
“Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book. I learned a lot from it and recommend it highly.” — Andrew Weil, M.D.
Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, revised edition: Relationship Repair in a Flash
A brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex
The truth of the matter is, though, that ED is often a complex condition affected by physical, psychological, and relationship issues—and it’s a problem shared by both a man and his partner. This book is the first ever to address this common problem using a comprehensive biological, psychological, and social approach. It offers a proven-effective program for regaining erectile function, building strong and intimate relationships, and having great sex.
Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex
It is estimated that 30 million American men have problems with premature ejaculation. This book contains the latest, scientifically-based, multidimensional methods for overcoming all types of premature ejaculation and includes a complete relapse prevention program.
10 Steps Completely Overcome Vaginismus: The Practical Approach to Pain-Free Intercourse
Viva la Vulva: Your guide to breaking free of vulvar pain
There are plenty of ways to treat vulvodynia, and with help, it’s 100% possible to take back control of your life and relationships. In this book was written for you by practicing physicians, pelvic physiotherapists, and scientists with years of experience to smash the stigma and empower you with the knowledge you need to rid yourself of vulvar pain.
Vagina Problems
Five years of doctors insisting she just had “bad period cramps,” or implying her pain was psychological. Shamed and stigmatized, Lara fought back against a medical community biased against women and discovered that the ignorance of many doctors about women’s anatomy was damaging more than just her own life. One in ten women have endometriosis and it takes an average of seven years before they receive an accurate diagnosis―or any relief from this incurable illness’ chronic pain.
With candid revelations about her vaginal physical therapy, dating as a straight woman without penetrative sex, coping with painful seizures while at the office, diet and wardrobe malfunctions when your vagina hurts all the time, and the depression and anxiety of feeling unloved.
Recommended Adult Toys
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Hitachi Rechargeable Magic Wand
The Magic Wand has been trusted for over 30 years to provide powerful, penetrating vibrations. Now, liberated from it's cord, it is ready to offer soothing, stimulating massage nearly anywhere, anytime. Powerful, durable, satisfying. Now cordless.
LELO SONA 2 Sonic Waves Clit Sucker
SONA 2 is a sonic massager that offers a new type of stimulation to your external pleasure spot, allowing you to experience a new kind of climax.
Gender X - Strap On (Vulva Owners)
Orgasmic Orchid Bendable 2-Ended C-Shaped Vibrator
Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap On Dildo & Harness Kit - 7 Inch Curved Silicone Strap On for Pegging Play
WET FOR HER | 6.5 Inch Small Strap-on Dildo | Womens Sex Toy Compatible with Harness
What’s not to love about a strap-on dildo that features the rainbow? Be loud and proud under the sheets with this Rainbow Strap-On Dildo. Handcrafted and made of 100% silicone, the Rainbow strap-on dildo has a smooth and soft texture whilst being firm and flexible
Prostimulator VX1 - Orgasm Inducing Prostate Massager
Make sure to appreciate your prostate! Made from a special polymer material which provides good blend of rigidity AND flexibility. It’s shaped for the perfect prostate stimulation every time. They can be used manually, but their true beauty lies in the hands-free option using just your sphincter muscle to bring you to an intense orga- sm.
Njoy Pure Adults G Spot Metal Wand 7.5 Inch Polished Steel
The njoy Pure Wand provides a direct connection to your favorite Spot - G or P - or wherever feels so good. The Pure Wand is crafted with perfect curvature and ample reach so you can lay back and relax while you pleasure yourself or your partner with firm, controlled massage. 24 ounces of pure medical-grade stainless steel 1” and 1-1/2” balls for versatile play possibilities 10” along the curve for ample reach to ‘hit the spot’.